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Social Media: The Real Thief Behind The Screen

In the recent weeks, the topic of social media and privacy prompted by the Facebook scandal has sparked a greater awareness in the people I work with around their use of Facebook, Instagram and the like. Here's a recap of the story. Cambridge Analytica worked with researchers from Cambridge University who developed a Facebook app … Continue reading Social Media: The Real Thief Behind The Screen

Are you clinging to the things you desire? – Learn to let go

What do you desire? A better job, pleasure and enjoyments, a better partner, etc? Do you think "If I had this or that, then I'd be happy?" Are you constantly postponing happiness? Or find yourself dissatisfied even when you acquire what you desire? Happiness is elusive. When it comes it only stays for a little … Continue reading Are you clinging to the things you desire? – Learn to let go

How To Mend A Broken Heart

Have you ever had a broken heart? It feels horrible, doesn't it? It's like an actual physical pain, right in the middle of your chest. Like someone punched a hole there. With anger. Because they really meant to leave a bruise. And you are left wondering what you did to deserve it... I have been … Continue reading How To Mend A Broken Heart

The Real Reasons Mindfulness Meditation Doesn’t Work

I have been a big proponent of mindfulness meditation for a while now. In fact my first dissertation study idea was to study the impact of mindfulness on empathy and compassion. But in the past 2 years I have significantly changed my thoughts about the topic. I have decided that I agree with some who … Continue reading The Real Reasons Mindfulness Meditation Doesn’t Work

How To Have Stress-Free Holidays

Stress-free holidays? No such thing! For some, the holidays are filled with happiness, excitement and joy. But for a lot of people this time of year brings with it a great deal of stress. Christmas comes with financial pressure, family obligations and relationship drama. For those who have lost someone this year (or ever) there … Continue reading How To Have Stress-Free Holidays

Are You Wired For Anxiety?

ANXIETY According to the National Institute of Mental Health, anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness affecting almost 40 million Americans. There are many types of anxiety disorders: generalized anxiety, panic disorder, social anxiety, post-traumatic stress, and obsessive-compulsive disorder. Learn more about each here. Anxiety is highly treatable yet only one third of individuals seek … Continue reading Are You Wired For Anxiety?

Being The Best You Can Be

The thing about failure is... In her famous Ted Talk on being wrong Kathryn Schulz used the metaphor of the roadrunner. Chased by the coyote, he runs off a cliff and keeps on running on air until the moment he realizes he is not on solid ground. At this point he finds himself too far gone, … Continue reading Being The Best You Can Be

Attachment Styles in Adult Relationships

Today, I was reading about attachment styles and adult relationships. As humans, we are programmed to bond with our caregivers for survival. The way they respond to our needs early on is crucial to our emotional health later on in life. There are four main types of attachment styles: secure, anxious/preoccupied/resistant, avoidant and disorganized.  The Strange … Continue reading Attachment Styles in Adult Relationships

Does Your Goal Feel Like An Uphill Climb?

Goal Achievement A couple of weeks ago my boyfriend and I decided to climb Mt. Mitchell. It sounded like a great idea but we both had no clue what we were getting ourselves into. We started out in great spirits, high energy, prepared and ready to tackle 5.7 miles up 3600 feet elevation climb to … Continue reading Does Your Goal Feel Like An Uphill Climb?

10 Relationship Skills I Wish I Was Taught.

No one teaches us relationship skills. We are just supposed to meet someone, like them, be attracted to them, fall in love. The rest is supposed to work itself out. It's not that relationships don't work out. It's whether or not we do. Here are 10 relationship skills I want all couples to know. Relationship … Continue reading 10 Relationship Skills I Wish I Was Taught.

How To Better Tolerate Emotional Pain

On Emotional Pain I have had a month of high stress and decreased tolerance to emotional pain. It happens. Especially when a lot of what stresses you out is outside of your control. There is a crisis brewing and I need to make sure my emotions are in check. A crisis is a highly emotionally … Continue reading How To Better Tolerate Emotional Pain

The Reason Your Loving Relationship Is Sexless

"I love her very much, we have a lot of fun. But the sex is gone" "I'm not attracted to him anymore."  "It's like the more someone rejects me, the more I want them. This guy likes me very much and he's very sweet but the desire is just not there because I know he … Continue reading The Reason Your Loving Relationship Is Sexless