A Blog Party Done Right – Here Are My Favorites.

May is Mental Health month. Yesterday was Mental health Blog Party Day. I know, I know, where is mine? I think I liked reading more and wouldn't mind sitting this one out. Here are my favorite blogs from Mental Health Blog Party Faith, Art and Farming: The Different Child -    "ADHD is a fact.  Some see … Continue reading A Blog Party Done Right – Here Are My Favorites.

How Wrong is our Need to be Right?

Yesterday, I mentioned that we often refuse to believe something if it contradicts what we know and believe, even when presented with overwhelming evidence that points to us being wrong. Kathryn Schulz is the author of "Being Wrong: Adventures in the Margin of Error." She talks about how most of us do not like to … Continue reading How Wrong is our Need to be Right?

Codependency: An introduction

Codependency seems to be the theme with the clients I see recently. Being codependent means you have the tendency to behave in an overly passive or caretaking way which puts your needs last and the other person’s first.  This is the opposite of selfish. It’s being completely unselfish.  In a harsh, competitive world filled of … Continue reading Codependency: An introduction

Sober Check. Now what?

The most difficult part of recovering from addiction is not the quitting part (believe it or not). The hard part is staying “quit” (for lack of a better word). For most addicted people, this is a day to day, full-time job. And contrary to what programs preach, sometimes it just doesn’t get better with time. … Continue reading Sober Check. Now what?

1001 Reasons Why My Self-Help Book Will Never be Published

Last night I couldn’t sleep and started re-reading a book that has been very influential in my making as a therapist and a person. The book is called “INTIMACY, CHANGE, AND OTHER THERAPEUTIC MYSTERIES” By David Treadway. This book cost me $30. No lie. Now that may seem normal to you but to someone who … Continue reading 1001 Reasons Why My Self-Help Book Will Never be Published

More on Marital Games

From Eric Berne's Games People Play If it Weren’t For You. This is a typical marital game. Mrs. White complained that her husband severely restricted her social activities so that she had never learned to dance. At some point the husband became less sure of himself and more indulgent. Mrs. White at that point is … Continue reading More on Marital Games

Why life is a wheel and I didn’t eat the rabbit.

The background In The strange life of Ivan Osokin written by P. D. Ouspensky, the hero is given a chance to find out the answer to a question many ask: “If a man had his life to live over again, knowing what he knows now, would he make the same mistakes?” The story opens at the … Continue reading Why life is a wheel and I didn’t eat the rabbit.

Here’s to great coffee and having a heart attack by the time I’m 40!

I’m a Type A. Life is getting harder and harder for our type. Yes, we are rigid but that’s not the reason. The real problem is: too many choices. Here’s a simple, yet perfect example. This morning I stop at Caribou for coffee. I’m already running a little late so I’m rushing but I don’t … Continue reading Here’s to great coffee and having a heart attack by the time I’m 40!

Relationship Addiction

So the question is can relationships be addictive? Many of us have known one of those couples who keep breaking up only to then make up, again and again. This can be very confusing to us watching from the side lines. Can you make up your mind already? Didn’t you want to kill that person … Continue reading Relationship Addiction