Are you clinging to the things you desire? – Learn to let go

What do you desire? A better job, pleasure and enjoyments, a better partner, etc? Do you think "If I had this or that, then I'd be happy?" Are you constantly postponing happiness? Or find yourself dissatisfied even when you acquire what you desire? Happiness is elusive. When it comes it only stays for a little … Continue reading Are you clinging to the things you desire? – Learn to let go

Love, Drugs and the Primitive Brain.

Ever wonder why love and drugs often go hand in hand? In this article I talk about love, drugs and the reason no one told you about the primitive brain...and why sometimes addiction is how we survive a broken heart. One Size Does Not Fit All After the tragic death of Amy Winehouse there was … Continue reading Love, Drugs and the Primitive Brain.

A “Chicken or the Egg” Dilemma: Mental Illness and Addiction

I was very young when I knew I wanted to be a therapist. I became particularly interested in depression and how people deal with traumatic events. Never in a million years did I think I would be an addiction expert. After my graduate studies I took an internship at a substance abuse outpatient center. This … Continue reading A “Chicken or the Egg” Dilemma: Mental Illness and Addiction

On Surrendering and Finding Your Center

Since I like telling stories and I think you can read about codependency on Wikipidia, I want to tell you a story. This story is about a girl. We'll call her M. M had a tough life. She was born in a small town and her life was filled with turmoil and heartache from birth. … Continue reading On Surrendering and Finding Your Center

Lets play games. Part I

If you ever knew someone struggling with addiction you will recognize this interaction immediately. Family members who are not addicted fall in the trap all the time without realizing it. Addicts often play the “the help rejecting complainer” game a.k.a the “why don’t you/ yes, but” game based on Eric Berne’s Games People Play. Let’s … Continue reading Lets play games. Part I